The best piece of advice I have ever received in my life was from a woman that I really admire… Marie Forleo. Yes… a lot of people admire Marie. If you don’t know who she is, I seriously recommend going to her website. She exudes optimism and encouragement. Her goal is to leave YOU feeling empowered. Marie does exactly what I strive every single day to do… help other women achieve success with less stress and tears than it took me.
Yes, I’m an Accredited Financial Counselor… so I want to see women succeed in their finances… BUT I don’t just talk about money. No no. I broke free from the shackles of the corporate financial world years ago when my husband (who is a licensed financial planner) and I set up our own independent company. (MOOLA financial) We hate our own industry. It’s set up so that financial advisors make money off people who have lots of money… by selling them something. Spending time with a family to figure out a plan that works for their very unique lives or teaching budgeting skills is time that the advisor is not paid for. It’s the most UNprofitable to HELP the people who NEED the most help. Not to mention the giant companies or banks that make you sell the products THEY want to profit off of, regardless of whether it’s a good product for the client’s financial well-being.
When you’re helping a family make a plan for their FUTURES, for their DREAMS, for their GOALS… it’s so much more than just money. Things change in our lives constantly… and so the plan needs to change along with it. Ongoing support, accountability, training, reminders, encouragement, discussion, check-ins… all the things that the financial industry is not set up to provide… that’s what busy families NEED. And I find that Moms are doing most of the day-to-day spending.
I got laughed out of the room by colleagues when I shared my dream of creating a way to teach busy women. To work WITH them. To offer them the practical QUICK solutions that they need. To offer ongoing support, continuing conversation, emotional encouragement. I was told that there was NO way I would make it. I’d go broke. They said that my clients wouldn’t put in the effort. They wouldn’t want to learn. These comments definitely caused my own negative-nancy voice to start talking in my ear.
One of the things that I work really hard on is my perfectionism and self doubt. I tend to want things to be perfect… so I end up agonizing and procrastinating and then miss opportunities. I know I’m not alone in these feelings because I’ve worked with thousands of busy moms that have these very same struggles.
Moms are amazing at juggling all the things. We care so dang much about accomplishing it all. And sometimes our minds get worn down.
“What if I make a mistake?”
“What if it doesn’t work out and I feel awful?”
“What if I can’t?”
“What if I’m not enough???”
Yeah girl. I feel that way more than I care to admit… but I’m getting better and better at just GOING for it. At kicking that negative self talk in the gut. At reminding myself that I CAN. Knowing that my goals are worthy of attaining. I shut the nay-sayers out and choose to sow the words of wisdom spoken by successful women… thought leaders… innovators… like Marie Forleo. Because I KNOW that I have something special to share with the world and I’ve gotta be brave and bold in order to reach the women that can use my help.
Well… this piece of advice KICKS PROCRASTINATION AND PERFECTIONISM IN THE GUT!
I was listening to a podcast and Marie was talking about her now super-well known phrase:
START BEFORE YOU’RE READY.
I’m not sure why exactly it was this moment in time I decided that I had enough of worrying and micro-managing myself and my knowledge, but I’m grateful for it. In a nutshell, Marie says that we have to start before we feel ready… because if we wait for that perfect time we will MISS OUT on opportunity.
Moms need this bit of advice more than other people, because we are GO GO GOers. If we put things on the back burner… we know what happens to those things. They never get done. They get forgotten. And all too often… it’s US that gets put on the back burner. It’s OUR needs and OUR goals.
You ARE enough.
Your goals DO matter.
It’s okay to make mistakes.
You can learn new skills.
So let’s go!
We just have to start. Get over that fear of beginning. Get over the fear of what if. Get over the fear of making a mistake. It’s okay. Started is better than ready. Because Moms can accomplish whatever we put our minds to. We just gotta take the plunge and begin.
This piece of advice can ring true in SO many different areas of our lives.
Tell me… how could you implement this advice in your own life?
Do any of your goals require money?
Do you wanna GET STARTED on something NOW… ?
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